What is the committee in your mind? It’s the set of voices that chatter on a near-constant basis and have something to say and a judgment about every situation you find yourself in. It’s the set of mental patterns you’ve developed over time that leads you to over-function, be self-critical, and ignore your own needs. It’s the […]
The voices in your head (mine too) Read More »
National Recovery Month just kicked off, and I reflect on that a lot. I’m cresting about 7-½ years in continuous sustained sobriety for those who like to keep track of time, and I honestly have trouble properly framing my gratitude for my life today. I feel a bit like a jackass when I say how
Recovery month & squirrels Read More »
In March 2018, we received a call from a man in jail in Suffolk County, NY, for a DUI. He was desperate and willing to leave his mom and brothers to do a long-term residential program. We funded his access, he is #399. #399 (of 637 people) followed suggestions, completed a program, and developed a
We can do hard things Read More »
“There is something beautiful about all scars of whatever nature. A scar means the hurt is over; the wound is closed and healed, done with.” – Harry Crews Jake was THAT guy in high school everyone came to talk to when they had a problem. Of course, the usual subjects were family issues, frienemy problems,
What does an instant mean to you? Is it priceless? Does it have the power to stop you in your tracks? Alter life, even just for a moment? Hold you still when the earth keeps spinning? Life keeps moving, but I get stuck in the moments. Moments that mean so much. Life is always on my
Photography takes an instant out of time, altering life by holding it still Read More »
“If a man knows not which port he sails, no wind is favorable.” – Seneca I see this wise quote in action in the ambivalence that often plagues those affected by their own substance use disorder or the active addiction of a loved one. “Should I give them $20?”“Should I bond them out of jail?”
Decisions…..decisions Read More »
The JKF rarely shows faces of people who we have helped, and I do not believe we have ever shown “before & after” photos.Why?We never want to label anyone.What anyone calls themselves is their business. Many agencies use such photos to elicit donations or followers. But, unfortunately, the long-term effect can be a label of
PSA: I am not my dis – ease. Read More »
Growing up, my family had many rituals. One was our dinner event.One child would set the table.The meal always started with a salad followed by a plate with appropriate portions of starch, protein, and vegetables. Dessert was available to those that finished everything on their plate.One child would clear the table and pack the dishwasher,
This morning I woke up to take my son to the school so he can participate in the military appreciation parade. I didn’t complain that it was early because I GET to be there for him. I looked around my extremely messy (in my opinion) home and was thankful to have a home to clean. I
Perspective and Promises Read More »
Hurt – written by Trent ReznorI hurt myself todayTo see if I still feelI focus on the painThe only thing that’s realThe needle tears a holeThe old familiar stingTry to kill it all awayBut I remember everythingWhat have I become?My sweetest friendEveryone I know goes awayIn the endAnd you could have it allMy empire of
